GO FOR IT
DO: Just do it! “Give yourself permission to engage in having a one-night stand,” says a sexuality expert. “Far too many people are concerned with how they should act, will be perceived, or what is considered moral that they never allow themselves to delve into casual encounter sex-capades.”
DON’T: Be a dick. Seriously. Even if you never plan on seeing her again, treat the woman with respect. She’s someone’s sister or daughter! One-night stands should be considered a pleasant surprise—not your God-given right.
PROTECTION
DO: Bring a condom with you before going out. If you do happen to forget, stop and pick one up before you head home. Otherwise, do everything but intercourse. Better to be safe than sorry!
DON’T: Get too caught up in the moment to use a condom. Pause foreplay for a couple of minutes to grab a condom is a way better scenario than dealing with an STI or unplanned pregnancy later on.
HAVE FUN BUT DISCUSS
DO: “Consider talking about your fantasies,” suggests one expert. “One night stands can be great for sexual experimentation as long as everyone is on the same page of what is going to happen.”
DON’T: Do anything weird or freaky if it wasn’t discussed before hand. For example, don’t tell someone that you want them to call out ‘Fuck me daddy!’ while engaging in vigorous intercourse if this was not agreed to beforehand. It could be a major turn off!
THE SITUATION
DO: Before you go home with someone while drinking, assess that they seem sober enough to make a rational decision and choice. If you feel like they’ve had too much to drink call the whole thing off. Be respectful to her, and you’ll feel better about yourself in the morning too.
DON’T: This goes without saying, but don’t try and persuade/force them to have sex with you if they says no. Asking a second and third time will only make you look desperate and annoying. No means no.
THE TALK
DO: If you’re not looking for anything serious, you should say so. It’s better to be upfront about what you want so she’s not confused and you dont look like an arsehole later!
DON’T: Wait to tell her you’re not looking for anything serious until after you get it on. It’s not fair to her, period, if you know you’re going to bounce right away.
EXIT STRATEGY
DO: Offer her cab money or a ride home. It’s simply the gentlemanly gesture. Plus, it will soften the blow that comes with uncomfortable exits, and she’ll appreciate it more than you know.
DON’T: Make up a lame excuse about why she has to leave. “I totally forgot I have breakfast with my mom at 10 a.m.” is not only a crock of shit, but also, extremely rude. At the very least, plant the seed the night before with something viable. “I’m going to be so hungover for my flag football game tomorrow morning,” holds significantly more merit.
THE MORNING AFTER
DO: Gauge whether or not she wants to have morning sex. Wrap your arm around her and gently stroke her stomach or kiss her neck. If she doesn’t take the bait, she’s not into it. If she reciprocates, do her a favor and brush your teeth first.
DON’T: Expect a morning delight just because she gave it up the night before. She may be uncomfortable, too hungover, or—apologies for being blunt—she just might not find you attractive when she’s sober.