Have an affair? Here’s how to keep everyone happy.
Having an affair is meant to be fun and exciting. When affairs are done properly, no-one should get hurt, especially not our respective partners. Knowing how to keep both parties happy takes a little planning.
Have Realistic Expectations
Using a married/dating site like Illicit Match and then taking your web-affair into real-life means you need to manage your expectations. Both you and your fling will most likely have families, jobs and interests. Being honest and open from the beginning that this affair is for fantasy, sex and maybe a little company and friendship sets things up for a successful and safe affair. Make it clear this is a temporary or casual relationship that will end eventually.
Manage Your Time Wisely
When married people have affairs is can easily become very steamy and intimate very quickly so the temptation to drop everything and meet up for a sex session can become overwhelming. Instead, plan your trysts carefully – plan hotel rooms and set boundaries about when and how you communicate. Use code words if you text or message and allow for some flexibility if dates have to be rescheduled.
Live In The Moment
When you and your fling get together for a night (or afternoon) of wild sex, remember to live fully in the moment. Don’t come to a hot date armed with complaints about your boss, colleagues or family. This is about a mutual pleasure and satisfaction. Leave the real world behind for a few of hours.
Remember to Resume Normal Life
The people who conduct successful affairs; keeping both spouse and fling happy are those who are able to resume a normal life easily and discretely. Both during, after and in-between affairs, keep your own life productive. Keeping on track with your career, families and hobbies makes you a well-rounded, well-adjusted person. The affair just adds to your overall character, a little down time where you can play out a different persona and enact all the fantasies you thought you had forgotten about. Never let an affair take over your life; and anytime a fling seems to have even the remotest potential to turn Fatal Attraction, end it immediately.